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3 Reasons Not to Put Your Daughter on the Pill


3 Reasons Not to Put Your Daughter on the Pill

The following information is for educational purposes only. For specific medical advice, diagnoses, and treatment, consult your doctor.

While many Circle of Moms members have a "better-safe-than-sorry" philosophy when it comes to making sure their teen daughters practice birth control, others, including Kristin W., are passionate in their opposition to the idea of the Pill for teens. "I personally would only put her on the Pill if it was medically necessary and only if she is abstinent. I am against putting her on the pill or any birth control of any kind," she says. Here, Kristin and other Circle of Mom members explain reasons to keep your daughter off the Pill.

(For the other side of the story, read 5 Reasons To Put Your Teen Daughter on Birth Control Pills.)

1. It Violates My Religion

Kimm W. who has a 14-year-old daughter, cites a desire to raise her daughter within the precepts of her Christian faith: "I have to say no with putting a 15-year-old daughter on the pill," she explains. "I believe teaching Godly values and having children in church where they can be around other Christian girls can help strengthen their moral values of staying pure til they are married."

Carole, another member, is in the same camp: "If I suspected that my 15-year-old daughter was sexually active, I would definitely tell her that I was concerned. I would tell her that at 15, her health, her well-being, and her potential offspring are my responsibility. I would definitely give her my moral opinion regarding pre-marital sex. We're Catholic, so I would let her know that as unrealistic as it sounds, I believe she should wait until marriage."

 

2. It Sends My Daughter the Wrong Message

Quite a few moms, including Elizabeth S. and Linda S., agree with Kimm and Carol about the need to discourage teen sex, though not necessarily for religious reasons. Elizabeth feels that putting your teen daughter on the pill

"sends the wrong message," and "gives her more permission to have sex." As Linda explains, consenting to a 15-year-old having sex is "horrible" because sex is "supposed to be the most precious moment between the love of your life, and yourself. Not a 15- and 17-year-old."

Cheryl N. adds another consideration to this list: a teenage girl is most likely not ready to take on the responsibilities of sex and its consequences.

She and other moms in this camp are far more comfortable discouraging dating and sex altogether. "I'm so old-fashioned I guess," says Cheryl, "but I have encouraged my daughter to try to at least wait until she is married." Marina feels similarly. She "would allow no dating alone yet" and no birth control, but does plan to initiate a dialogue with her daughter about love, sex, and relationships.

3. It Can Create Health Issues

Finally, several moms intend to keep their teen daughters away from oral contraceptives to avoid courting blood clots, stroke, or more subtle side effects like depression. (The widely accepted contraindications for teens considering oral contraceptives include a family history of blood clotting disorders, migraines with auras, and early onset breast cancer. See a complete list for women of all ages at the website of the American Association of Family Practitioners.) While these outcomes are rare, it's important to be aware of your family history before making a decision about birth control.

UPDATE: The New England Journal of Medicine has just published a new study that suggests that hormonal approaches to birth control that include estrogen "do indeed boost stroke and heart attack risk in the women who take them," according to ABC News.

(For the other side of the story, read 5 Reasons To Put Your Teen Daughter on Birth Control Pills.)

The preceding information is for educational purposes only. For specific medical advice, diagnoses, and treatment, consult your doctor.

Image Source: Jason Meredith via flickr/creative commons

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