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Dirty Diaper Dancing: When Dad Won't Do Diapers

Dirty Diaper Dancing: When Dad Won't Do Diapers


Dirty Diaper Dancing: When Dad Won't Do Diapers

Consider yourself lucky if your child’s dad does diaper duty. In India, 86 percent of dads say they would never touch a diaper because it’s women’s work.

According to a survey* of 8,000 men and 3,500 women in Brazil, Croatia, Chile, India, Mexico, and Rwanda,  statistics on the issue of male participation in household duties from these six developing countries are pretty sobering. It's not only diapers that men shy away from, it's childcare in general. In Rwanda, 61 percent of the men surveyed consider it to be a women’s duty.

Gasp all you want, American moms, but these gender disparities, especially in diaper changing, hit closer to home than you might think. The question of who changes the diapers – and more to the point, who won't – is a hot topic in the Circle of Moms Children of 2006 community.

My husband hates changing our daughter’s diapers,” says Kim B. “Especially when they are more than wet. But he also isn’t her biological dad and I cut him some slack because of it. However, when we have our own children, I know he will have a problem with it and make up any excuse to not have to do it.

Erin L. says her husband started out with good intentions but pooped out on the diaper changing a month after their son was born: “He seemed to get hit with a lot of poopy diapers and he essentially stopped,” she reports. “He only changes if I’m away or I complain enough. I think my mom said my dad rarely ever changed them too.”

Lynette B. may have put it best when she said, “I think dads should change diapers. I don’t see why it should be any different for the dad then the mother. Who ‘enjoys’ changing diapers? I don’t know of anyone who jumps up and says ‘oh please, please, please can I change the next one"

So moms, how do you get dads to become part of the changing crew?

 

The International Men and Gender Equality Survey was coordinated by the Washington D.C.-based International Center for Research on Women and Brazil’s Instituto Promundo.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author and do not necessarily represent the views of, and should not be attributed to, POPSUGAR.

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