One of the best most important factors in disciplining your child is communicating your expectations and your disappointment in the misbehavior. Here is some communication advice for moms in the Positive Discipline community, and for other parents who want to communicate their feelings effectively.
Words simply convey information. Emotion gives information meaning. That’s why communicating emotion is at the heart of smart parenting.
The ways you can convey positive emotion to a child include:
- Eye contact: Parents who make eye contact with their children open the flow of communication and convey interest, concern, warmth, and credibility.
- Facial expressions: Authentic expressions convey warmth, happiness, friendliness, and bonding. Don’t forget: Smiling is contagious.
- Gestures: A lively and animated parent captures attention and facilitates learning. Head nods, for instance, communicate positive reinforcement and indicate that you are listening.
- Posture and body orientation: You communicate numerous messages by the way you walk, talk, stand, and sit. Standing erect, but not rigid, and leaning slightly forward communicates that you are approachable and receptive. Adults respond to this posture as well.
- Voice: Parents (or talk show hosts) who drone on in a monotone are boring. Mix up your tone, rhythm, inflections, and volume to keep your child’s interest.
A New York Times #1 best-selling author and host of The Dr. Oz Show, Mehmet C. Oz, M.D. is also professor and vice chairman of surgery at New York Presbyterian-Columbia University and the director of the Heart Institute. For more from Dr. Oz, check out You: Raising Your Child and You: Having a Baby, both co-authored with Michael F. Roizen, M.D.
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