5 Ways to Stop Judging Other Parents

Women have a habit of being a bit, well, judgmental. And it seems like that's especially true of moms. Whether we are sitting on the sidelines or standing by the swing set, we have a tendency of pointing to a fellow parent and pinpointing her flaws. And most of the time these judgments are based solely on appearance or hearsay.

Well, moms, I say enough with the mean-girl behavior. Not only do these actions affect our peers, but think of the impact they have on our children. After all, how can we teach them to be kind to others when we don't practice what we preach? So rather than resolving to change our appearance in the New Year, why not alter our attitude? It may be easier than we think.

Be Open Minded
Flickr user mi-chou

Be Open Minded

It's natural for people to fear change, especially when it comes to their social circles. So as a defense mechanism, we shut people out without giving them a chance. Next time someone introduces you to a new mom, try viewing her as a new friend rather than a future enemy.

Give Second Chances
Flickr user leedman

Give Second Chances

They say first impressions are everything, but that doesn't mean they should be the only thing. If this mom wasn't particularly kind when you met, don't write her off just yet. It's possible that her kids or partner put her in a bad mood that day and she wasn't in the right mind-set for meeting someone new. Give her another chance, and you may be pleasantly surprised.

Draw Your Own Conclusions
Flickr user justwinchester

Draw Your Own Conclusions

It's easy to let playground gossip affect your attitude toward another mom. But is that really fair to her? Rather than making a decision off of other people's opinions, get to know the mom on your own terms. Who knows, you may end up with a new friend.

Put Yourself in Her Shoes
Flickr user mtsofan

Put Yourself in Her Shoes

Did you ever stop to think why this mom behaves the way she does? Maybe she misses events because she has to work two jobs to pay the bills. Maybe she seems angry all the time because she and her partner are going through problems. Maybe she looks exhausted because she's up all night worrying about her child with autism.

Try coming up with a reason why she may act a certain way (or better yet, ask if she's OK), and give her the benefit of the doubt if it's needed. After all, every mom is trying to do her best.

And Remember, If You Don't Have Anything Nice to Say . . .
Flickr user ian-arlett

And Remember, If You Don't Have Anything Nice to Say . . .

. . . Don't say anything at all.

Sometimes, for whatever reason, two people just don't mesh. But that doesn't give you the go-ahead to talk about her to other people. If you keep your opinions to yourself, the park can remain a peaceful place.