14 Signs Your Daughter Is Not a Mean Girl

Girls grow up with a lot (a lot) of pressure these days. Be nice, but not too nice. Be bossy, but don't be a bully. Be what you want to be, but as long as it's not a princess. Socially, it's rough out there for our girls. I feel for them, I really do. That's why as parents, it's important to know the signs if your daughter is a mean girl or not — because either way, we can help them through it. So while most of us probably have a decent handle on our kiddo's personality, here are a few reassuring signs that she's gratefully your average kid and not the class bully. Source: Flickr user Giles Cook

Her Friends Aren't Mean Girls

Her Friends Aren't Mean Girls

It's not always 100 percent true, but taking a look at your daughter's closest pals will give you a good insight into how she is toward others. Source: Flickr user Torrey Wiley

She Does Not Get Frustrated Easily

She Does Not Get Frustrated Easily

Sure, frustration is not the only indication of being a mean girl, but if your child does not typically frustrate easily, then chances are she has a decent handle on her emotions — and therefore doesn't make it a habit of purposely saying hurtful things to others simply out of frustration. Source: Flickr user Steven Depolo

She Tells You Everything

She Tells You Everything

It's always a good sign if your child feels comfortable enough to tell you everything that is going on with her! And if you hear any red flags, you can help her work through it. Source: Flickr user brklynn

She's Focused on Other Things Than Popularity

She's Focused on Other Things Than Popularity

Girls who are superfocused on things (schoolwork, sports, band practice, etc.) other than popularity tend to stay away from being the bully since they have better things to worry about. Source: Flickr user woodleywonderworks

She Sticks Up For Others

She Sticks Up For Others

Have you heard her stick up for someone who was picked on? Or does your daughter always root for the underdog? Maybe she wants to invite a girl over who doesn't have a lot of friends, or maybe she simply tells you that she feels bad for so-and-so because they sit alone at lunch. Source: Flickr user James Kim

She Tries to Include Everyone

She Tries to Include Everyone

Her invite list for her birthday includes anyone and everyone because she really does not want anyone to feel left out. Source: Flickr user Torrey Wiley

She Has Long-Lasting Friendships

She Has Long-Lasting Friendships

If your daughter does not go through friends quickly and is able to form and keep long-lasting friendships, chances are she's doing OK. Source: Flickr user Dani_vr

She's Independent

She's Independent

Sure, she's social, but she also is perfectly happy doing her own thing. Source: Flickr user borosjuli

She's Respectful of Adults

She's Respectful of Adults

All those years of teaching her to be respectful of adults have paid off because she applies it not only to adults but to her peers as well. Source: Flickr user U.S. Embassy New Delhi

She's Not Overly Combative

She's Not Overly Combative

Kids argue; even the sweetest of the sweet kids have their moments. But typical kid outbursts, rather than full-on emotionally and physically charged fights with you or her friends, are normal. Source: Flickr user X O X O L I C I O U S

She's Not Overly Jealous

She's Not Overly Jealous

Sure, she sometimes feels jealousy (who doesn't?), but it does not consume her and she's able to move forward from it easily. Source: Flickr user Porsche Brosseau

She's Complimentary

She's Complimentary

She's always telling someone good job on that test, that she likes their outfit, or that she loves their drawing from art class. Source: Flickr user Giles Cook

She's Fair

She's Fair

In play, does she always have to be Elsa no matter what? Or does she take turns with her pals? Girls who play fairly and democratically are less likely to be a bully. Source: Flickr user Gordon

You're a Nice Person

You're a Nice Person

Chances are, if you are not a mean girl, then your child won't turn out to be one either. Believe it or not, children really do follow in our footsteps. So choose your own adventure, mama! Source: Flickr user Dave Parker