Will I Be a Good Mother? Dealing with Pre-baby Jitters


Will I Be a Good Mother? Dealing with Pre-baby Jitters

Having nightmares that you’ll drop/lose/break your baby? In addition to trying to trust that maternal instincts will kick in, calm your pre-baby jitters with these 6 mom-recommended strategies.

1. Blame Your Hormones

Realize that nerves and nightmares are normal part of the hormone roller coaster that is pregnancy. As Mallory L. explains: “Your hormones are wilder right now than when you hit puberty, girl! You will feel every aspect of the entire spectrum: happy, sad, scared, excited, anxious...and everything in between. Don't be discouraged! It is normal to feel a hundred different ways at once.”

2. Try to Relax 

"Stay calm and do things to relax," Becky V. recommends. “Long baths, prayer, go for a massage, yoga, whatever calms you. Along with my faith my prenatal yoga class was the best thing I did to get me through the jitters.”  Staci M. offers similar relaxation advice: “Give yourself a break right now. I think I OD'ed on baby books and websites while I was pregnant and made myself far more nervous than I needed to be. Try to relax and take a couple of deep breaths...”

3. Take a Parenting Class

Taking a parenting class for first-time parents can help boost your confidence and calm your nerves. As Sarah C. advises: “While lots of people may say that you will know how to take care of your baby instinctively, if you have had limited experience with children, I would suggest you take a parenting class. Most hospitals and women's centers offer them for free. Now only will you get good tips on dealing with baby in the beginning, it will also help ease your fears a little.”

4. Get Advice, but Follow Your Instincts

Worried about particular aspects of being a new mom? Bring in the experts! Melissa G. suggests: “Grab mom or an aunt or a friend who is good at giving advice and ask them some questions.” That said, moms like Kimberly H. also recommend taking all that helpful advice with a grain of salt: “Listen to everyone who wants to give the advice but in the end to do what you and your instincts feel is right.”

5. Ask for Help

Don't be afraid to ask for help from nurses, lactation specialists, family and friends. As Trisha H. shares: “Ask questions if you have them, and when you go home if you are worried about something or have a ‘stupid’ question, pick up the phone and call the nurse and ask because it's nothing they haven't heard before and you are a new mother. It is expected.”

6. Plan a Babymoon

Consider severely limiting visitors for the first few days after giving birth. As Emily C. shared: “I also found it really helpful to take a ‘babymoon’ with my husband for several days after our son was born - we really limited the number of visitors - just say no!  We needed time to learn how to be Mom and Dad without a lot of interruptions. It gave us time to bond with our son; we didn't feel rushed and we didn't feel like we had to share him all the time. It's a very sacred time.”

Image Source: Arwen Abendstern via Flickr/Creative Commons

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