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The Money Trap: How to Manage Money in a Single-Income Household


The Money Trap: How to Manage Money in a Single-Income Household

Couples may marry for love, but it is money that often douses the flames of passion. As Circle of Moms members reveal, raising a family on one parent's income while the other parent stays at home can set the stage for ongoing tension. Many moms say running a household on a single income is difficult enough without the additional stresses on a couple over control of money and resources. As Veronica K. explains, "It's a touch and go thing - for the most part it is our money, but there are times that I have to make that stand in arguments because my hubby still tries to play the 'it's my money' thing on me."

Among the questions that arise, the most common is, "Is the money yours, his or both?" Circle of Moms member Lacye, who posed this question, also wonders, "Should each parent have money in their own account - money that is one's own? Or should funds be funneled into one joint account and be doled out at the discretion of the partner who makes the money?"

Circle of Moms members have shared a range of ideas for families living on one income, but stress that no single money management system will fit every family. All say that the issues are serious and potentially very divisive, and so merit thoughtful discussion by both partners.

Joint Accounts

Many Circle of Moms believe that all the household money should be pooled into one account and all financial decisions should be made as a team. "It's our money," says Sarah H., a stay-at-home mom. "He makes the money, and I run the household. Our 'jobs' are both significant and important to our family. I don't make money, but I work hard to save money. I'm very fortunate that my husband understands the value of a SAHM. We even have a life insurance policy on me so that he can pay for childcare and a maid should anything ever happen to me. Sarah B. agrees: "I am a SAHM and it is our money, not his money," she says. "Neither of us make a large purchase without consulting the other. All decisions regarding finances are made together."

Separate Accounts

In some households it works best for both parents to have their own accounts, even when only one is the primary wage earner. "I think I'm in the minority that my money is my money, and my husbands' money is his money," says Sarah M. "Obviously, we help each other out where it's needed, but we have no joint account."

Sarah says joint accounts worry her because of the chance that all the money will wind up in an account under the name of the primary wage earner. The stay-at-home partner, she says, can lose "the right to be put out if the husband goes and buys himself a new car or a new TV."

Another good reason for moms to have their own accounts is to create their own credit history, points out Heather L. "My relationship is a partnership," she says. "We don't have a joint account, because if he buggers up and overspends, it would directly affect my financial existence, among other things."

Finding What Works For You

"We have found what works for us," says Brie S. "He works and I am a SAHM. The account is in his name. But I work and take care of the books and pay the bills and if he needs cash he lets me know and I get it for him. If he needs the card he asks for it. It's not an issue."

No matter how you ultimately decide to manage money in your home, Circle of Mom members agree that it's not just about money or whether couples have joint or separate checking and savings accounts that matters most. What does matter is if couples work together as a unified team.

"I'm his partner, not his dependent," says Liz H. "Whatever you choose, decide on it together. And, if the first plan you draw up doesn't work, change it until it fits your situation."

Do you think one wage earner families should have joint or separate accounts?

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