Has your son's voice become a bit deeper? Is your daughter moodier than ever? Congratulations — your child has hit puberty! As we all know, the transition from child to young adult can be a tricky one to handle. It's a time that's filled with many emotional and physical changes that you and your child may be unsure of how to handle. From the first shave to the first bra, see when your child can tackle these major puberty milestones.
For boys, when to shave comes down to their style. If your son wants a smooth face, then he can start shaving once the peach fuzz arrives. If he wants to test the scruffy look, he may not want to shave for a while — or ever! Girls, however, have a bigger challenge. Many moms worry that if their daughter starts shaving too soon, her hair will come back thicker or darker than before. While that’s a great way to keep her away from the razor, it’s not the truth. POPSUGAR Beauty reporter Kirbie Johnson assures us this is just one of many shaving myths. Instead, let your daughter's body confidence be the deciding factor. Girls with darker, more noticeable hair may shave as early as fourth grade, but fair-haired girls can wait a little longer. If you’d rather avoid the razor, let her try a hair remover like Veet or Nair.
While mood swings are generally the worst side effect of puberty, body odor is a close second. This scent that accompanies adolescent kids' rapidly changing hormones transfers to their clothes, bed sheets, and their surroundings. As soon as you notice an unpleasant smell, your child should start wearing deodorant. This typically happens between the ages of 8 and 12, but an active child may need to apply sooner.
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Most parents wait until their daughters are at least 13 before taking them to the salon to have body hair waxed off. Since there are many negative side affects to waxing, including irritation, inflammation, and future ingrown hairs, be sure to talk to her about these beforehand. The thought of pain may scare her into plucking for a few more years. As for removing hair down there, most salons won't give bikini waxes to anyone under the age of 18.
Wearing a Bra
Looking forward to your first mother-daughter trip to Victoria's Secret? It may happen sooner than you think. Girls are likely to begin developing breasts as early as age 8. But how can you tell if your daughter's in need of some support? According to Glenda E., "when she is showing through her tops, then you know it's time.” When that day arrives, make sure you are able to help her, rather than throwing her to a sales associate.
When she was a tot, you were happy to let your daughter play with your makeup. But as she ages and draws more attention from boys, you may be more hesitant. Louise G. thinks moms should "wait until their daughter is out of primary school" and start her with clear glosses and light shadows. If she won't stop complaining, try Angela H.'s approach, which she used on her daughters. "They had to wash and take care of their faces for six weeks without us hassling them to do it. Then they were allowed to use clear lip gloss after showing responsible behavior. With that, we moved up to colored lip gloss."
Visiting the Ob-Gyn
Many moms think their daughter can skip the ob-gyn till she becomes sexually active. That may be too long to wait. According to the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology, a girl should start visiting the gynecologist between the ages of 13 and 15. By visiting the doctor sooner, your daughter will build a better relationship and have someone else to talk to about her ever-changing body.