7 Things You Should Never Say to a New Mom (and 1 You Should!)

If you're planning a new baby visit — whether it's to see the child of a best friend, a sister-in-law, or a work acquaintance — there are a few choice words and opinions that you're best off keeping to yourself. Stay in the new mama's good graces by following our guidelines for what not to say as she's adjusting to motherhood. Plus, the one sentence that everyone with a newborn wants to hear (trust us!).

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You're Not Breastfeeding? You Should Try Again!
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You're Not Breastfeeding? You Should Try Again!

She's read the same facts you have, and has probably even talked to her doctor about it. You may not know the whole story, so just listen and respect her decisions — even if they're different than your own.

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Oh, Just Give Him Some Formula — It's Fine!
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Oh, Just Give Him Some Formula — It's Fine!

Really, we promise you, she can make these decisions for herself!

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(S)he's Still Not Sleeping Through the Night?
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(S)he's Still Not Sleeping Through the Night?

Some babies sleep easy from week one; some take years to get it together. The new mom doesn't need to be reminded of her baby's night owl tendencies (but she may appreciate a latte!).

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It Must Be Nice to Be Home All Day
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It Must Be Nice to Be Home All Day

While it's just an eight-pound(ish) difference that separates being home alone from being home with a newborn, she has to be at the baby's call 24/7. It's an amazing time, an exciting time, but can also be an exhausting time. Don't underscore what she's going through because, baby, it's intense!

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I'd Be So Nervous Leaving Her With a Stranger
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I'd Be So Nervous Leaving Her With a Stranger

It's not a stranger — it's a babysitter or day care center that she's interviewed, has spent time with, and is totally confident in.

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What Percentile Is the Baby?
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What Percentile Is the Baby?

Don't stress her out. If he looks smaller or larger than other babies in the same age bracket, chances are, everything is still A-OK. It takes all types!

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So When Are You Going to Start Thinking About Number Two?
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So When Are You Going to Start Thinking About Number Two?

Maybe she already is; maybe it's years off. Either way, she'll let you know if she wants to. Don't stress her out!

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But the One Thing You SHOULD Say Is . . .
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But the One Thing You SHOULD Say Is . . .

"You're doing such a great job. You're a wonderful mom." And easy as that, you'll rank at the top of her new baby visitors list.