Going through childbirth is a sure sign that you've become a mom. But there are other rites of passage that are a lot less — well, talked about. Circle of Moms member Laura knows what I'm taling about here. She was visiting her mother-in-law’s house with her one-year-old son when he began projectile vomiting. As she describes it, she voluntarily put herself in his pathway: "I was trying to save [my MIL's] carpet and nice leather chair so I cupped him in my arms so that it would just get on me and him." And, she adds, "He did it like three times. . ."
Yup, this is the kind of moment when you really know you're a mom. Here, a behind-the-scenes look at three common experiences that whisper the truth: you've been initiated into a unique sorority, one in which the true and underlying meaning of motherhood is simply...understood.
1. You Forget Critical Information
Motherhood seems to bring on some inspired moments of forgetfulness. Circle of Moms member Faith F. shares that she once left her cell phone in the fridge. And Gidget G. once lost track of the fact that her own mother wasn't actually physically present during a phone conversation: “I was caring the baby around the house searching for my cell phone so we could go to bed, and kept telling my mom that I could not find this stupid thing” she recalls. “She asked what I was looking for then it dawned on me....duh, I’m talking on it.”
From time to time, what you forget can even be the kids themselves! Jennifer W. knew she'd joined the mom sorority when she thought she'd lost her seven-month-old son. “I've always, always had a worry that I would leave my son somewhere, at home when I left, the grocery store, etc.,” she explains. “So every time I'm driving down the road, I have a habit of looking in my mirror to make sure he is in his car seat. One day I looked and he wasn't there. I slammed on the breaks, jerked across traffic, did an illegal U-turn and rushed home. I get home and was freaking out about what could have happened and all I got was a laughing husband. I had forgotten that I was going out for me-time to get my eyebrows done while my husband kept the baby.”
2. Vanity and Modesty End
Part of taking on the role of mom is accepting that both vanity and modesty are often no longer within easy reach. As Jodi K. and Quanda C.'s stories illustrate, perfectly manicured nails, coiffed hair and stylish outfits often give way to no makeup and sweats, and private time dwindles to a few minutes in the bathroom with the door locked.
Jodi's moment of revelation came one day when the doorbell rang while she was breastfeeding her daughter. “I plop her on the floor to play, hop up to answer the door, and there is the UPS guy with some stuff I ordered. It wasn't until I opened the second door and got hit with fourteen below temps that I realized that my nursing bra was still down and my shirt was still up...totally flashing the mail guy!"
Quanda's moment came during some routine housework: “I'm cleaning and putting my linen in the closet outside my bedroom and my son is sitting on my bed watching Yo Gabba Gabba. I hear him moving around and babbling. Normal Saturday in my house. My brother calls him from the living room to come get a snack and he runs past me to go to his uncle. I hear my brother burst out laughing and calling me. When I poke my head into the living room my 18-month-old son is still proudly trying to hand his uncle my vibrator, which he'd apparently removed from my drawer while he was in my room.”
3. You Take Extreme Grossness in Stride
As Laura's story showed, the reality of being a mom can sometimes hit you right in the face. She's far from the only one, too. Members Rebecca V., Natasha L., Sunny M. share similar stories.
Just when Rebecca thought she had mastered her youngest daughter's bedtime wetting problem, she discovered that kids will find their own way to get what they want. "When [my daughter] was around four she was not allowed to drink anything after 6 p.m. to avoid wetting her bed,” Rebecca explains. “So instead of sneaking into the bathroom to get a drink from the bathroom sink she would get it from the other water source in the bathroom: the toilet."
When Natasha's son was a newborn and she went to change his diaper, "he shot pee straight on my face and into my mouth. Yum!” And Sunny once discovered her toddler making art with a novel coloring tool. "When my son was about 18 months old, I thought he was sound asleep,” she remembers. “So I had my shower and when I went to check on him, I discovered that he hadn't been asleep at all. He had been finger painting his room with poo!"
Maybe — hopefully — you haven't yet forgotten your kid somewhere, or flashed the mailman, or been peed on. But if you have, take heart. As Circle of Moms member Dora L. shares, moments like these just come with the motherhood territory: "My advice for those crazy mom moments is to just get a good laugh from them. . . . we moms are far from perfect, and that is just one of the things that make us wonderful.”
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